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chugen Chugen
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miai Miai
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-(Meeting for marriage)
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-(matchmaker)
seibo Seibo
-(or Oseibo)
-(Year-end gift)
wedding Wedding

wedding (marriage)

There is a wedding of various types.
Here we explains three types as follows.

1. Shinto-style wedding.

  It has been said that Shinto-style wedding mimics the church type and was designed at the Meiji era.
  We explains the flow of the entire ceremony.
(1) All members are seated.
(2) Exorcising something bad.
(3) The salt and rice, etc. are offered before the alter.
(4) The Shinto priest reports on the marriage of two people to the god. (5) The Shinto priest prays, and the congratulatory address of blessing is given. All members stand up and hear that.
  Bride and bridegroom drink libation alternately, and bonds of marriage are connected.
This is a ceremony that is called "3-3-9 do (3-3-9 times)".
1...The libation of a small glass is drunk in bridegroom and bride and bridegroom's order.
2...The libation of a medium glass is drunk in bride and bridegroom and bride's order.
3...The libation of a large glass is drunk in bridegroom and bride and bridegroom's order.
Three times three is nine.
Bride and bridegroom swear the marriage in front of the god.
All members stand up and hear that.
Bride and bridegroom dedicate the sprig of the sacred tree (called Tamagushi) to the god.
The bridegroom and the bride exchange rings.
The relative also drink libation, and family bond deepens.
 
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2. Church wedding (Christianity type wedding).
  The attendance is previously seated.
The bridegroom enters from the right side of the altar with the matchmaker and the friend (best man).
All members stand up.
The bride enters in from the bridal aisle with father.
Bride's father passes the bridegroom his daughter.
All members sing hymn with a piano accompaniment.
They sit down when singing were finished.
The priest reads the scripture text aloud, and he prays to the god for bride and bridegroom.
The priest requests the wedding vow to bride and bridegroom.
Bride and bridegroom do the wedding vow in front of the people present.
The bride and the bridegroom put the ring in a left ring finger of each other. The ring has received the priest's blessing.
After pilling up bride's and bridegroom's right hands, the priest put his hand and prays that there is God's grace.
Bride and bridegroom leave the church through the bridal aisle.
 
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3. The wedding in the presence of others.
  All members enter to the hall , and are seated.
  The master of ceremonies announce the beginning of the wedding, and he introduces bride and bridegroom.
  Bride and bridegroom do the wedding vow in front of the people present.
  Bride and bridegroom sign the marriage report.
  The bride and the bridegroom put the ring in a left ring finger of each other.
  All members toast for two people. They bless the couple.
 
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